Let’s face it, at 21 or so, we feel like we own the world, know everything and don’t need any advice from anyone. OR, life goes though ups and downs, we sometimes get confused and feel lost.
If you are 21 or younger and reading this post, your life doesn’t magically make sense at 30. It’s always going to be a little confusing and challenging. Once you accept this, it becomes much more enjoyable and hopefully some of the points below will help you with some of the cross roads. There are things I wish I knew at 21.
Try to take care of your body, you might need it after
In my younger years, my body was a disposable resource. There was no outlook to think about the health going into my midlife as each day I had the attitude, ‘I’m here for a good time, not a long time’.
Putting my body through years of smoking, binge drinking and drugs has surely done much damage which is taking a long time to repair. Even things like not using sunscreen with getting hardcore sunburn, weekends of sleep deprivation due to partying and extremely poor eating habits has taken its toll.
You realise when you have more to live for than yourself, taking care of your body is so important. So just think, if you don’t have responsibilities now, doesn’t mean in years to come you still won’t. You can use all the good health you can get, when the struggles of life hit.
Enjoy the relationships you have as they will diminish
Deep connections we friends, partners and even family is so rich when you are younger. You not only have the time to have more of these connections, but you can share deep and meaningful bond. Not too say as you get older you won’t have these types of relationships, but they will reduce in quantity.
Somewhere in life, when you may start a family, new career or other life absorbing activity, its likely your friends are too. With this there is less time to enjoy amazing experiences together and they can become lessor or non-existent.
It’s important to accept that this is just a part of life and enjoy the times you do get to spend together. Ensure you do make the effort to work on these relationships you have left.
You’re not losing friends, you find out who your real ones are
I guarantee the party list on 21st birthday is not going to have all the same people on it on your 41st. With some relationships diminishing, you can start to realize who your real friends are even if you don’t see them regularly.
These special friends in your life, are there through the tough times and the good times. You value each other’s time, phone calls and messages.
It’s ok to switch career paths, you’ve got plenty of time
I’m currently 36 and have switched career paths about 5 times with the possibility to do it again next year. When you’re stuck in the ‘Career Bubble’, it may seem that like you’re on a hamster wheel trying to progress. If you constantly feel plateaus or reach the next steps in your career and still not happy with your daily grind, you may want to swap it out.
If you have no career path and are worried, read some life changing books and try as many different jobs you can. If you fail at them or don’t like them, just get on to the next one.
It’s not about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
Do what you love, not what brings the cash in
I think there is a point in life where income becomes important to support a family. If you can make cash doing what you love, it won’t feel like work.
If you currently do what you love to do every day, but don’t bring any income from it, find out how you can use this passion to make money. Simple thing like making an online business is easy to learn and cost effective.
Travel and Experiences
Opening your perception of life is hard to do if you’re stuck in the same town you’ve known your whole life. It great to see how the rest world lives and values their lives.
Traveling is the best way to expand this part of your mind and explore not only different places, but learn more about yourself.
Make travel experiences diverse and not just a holiday. Work in different countries, meet different people and if you can, learn different cultures.
When the time comes in life and you finally have a more disposable income, don’t buy the flash car, pay for experience which will enrich your soul. You become more established in maturity and build more life skills that will serve you in the future.
Get out into nature more often
Build a relationship with the outdoors and make sure you stay grounded. The superficial life will be calling you over and over in your younger years. Don’t let it grab you and take you away from where you belong.
Having a constant connection with nature will not only keep you calmer, but healthier as you go through changes in your early adulthood.
Save some pennies
Even if it’s a little, have a savings account that creates good interest locked down with no withdrawal will serve you well. In my twenties, payday would always be so far away and I use to dispense my earning very quickly. One of the best thing my parents taught me, was to save a few bucks out of each paycheck no matter what.
Even if you only make $100 a week, save $5-10. Over a year that adds up and over 10 years with a good investment plan, it can be cash you need for life changing investment. I only wish I invested more now.
Invest in yourself
If you do have the money to spend, invest in learning and developing yourself. There are tonnes of cost effective courses online or in person where you can progress your health, career or other life skills.
At any age, we should continue investing in ourselves, but making it habitual and even doing things like reading books will keep your brain young. Reading at least one book a month will have a massive impact on your future.
Sit in silence for 10 minutes every day
Technology is quickly changing our brains and the next early generations will be programmed for easy distraction.
Just ten minutes of meditation everyday will help you combat distraction and help develop your focus for development.
It’s ok to feel lost. Enjoy being lost but not for too long
You can’t continually couch surf, party and drag on a pathless life for ever. Life without meaning or direction if often filled with anxiety or depression. If you are stuck in trauma or lack purpose, read Claim your power by Mastin Kipp.
Its ok to been in this limbo for a while and its very natural to be in this state. When you are here, this is the best time to invest in yourself and learn how abundant life can be.
Life will go in ups and downs when your young, but it also does when you older. Get used to it and enjoy the roller coaster ride.
My last words are failures lead to learning. Learn how to fail better and you’ll develop success in all aspects of life.
If you had had the chance to go back in time, what advice would you tell yourself? Please drop a comment below.